Rethinking Caregiving

Caregiving to a spouse with cancer is different from any other caregiving.  

What other people are doing is not going to work for you. 

The solution is very specific. 

Do you feel like you need to reign in your emotions as you care for your spouse? 

But you can’t imagine where to start.

You dread getting up in the morning but feel like you have to do it.

Deep down, you want to be a caregiver, you find it rewarding and fulfilling, but sometimes you don’t want to do it.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are not broken.

You are feeling like that, because that is the only way you know how.

I will teach you another way to approach caregiving so you do not get  burned out.

Even if it seems like you have no control;

You do have the ability to reign in your emotions and control your own actions.

Because that is where I was when my mother was first diagnosed with cancer.

I felt like I had no control over what was happening in my life, that was the worst feeling.

My name is Esther Mbabazi, I am a Certified Caregiver Coach & an in-patient oncology nurse.

I will teach you how to navigate your new role, through a proven step by step, to help you know what to do, how to do it, and become present and focused. 

Do you feel like you go to bed, you sleep for a bit, then you wake up; your mind is racing, you feel anxious, you picture all sorts of worst case scenarios.

You turn back and forth before you know it, it is time to wake up and you are tired.

Do you feel more irritable and angry, then feel like a horrible person?

You are not a horrible person, It’s just a sign that you need some support. I can teach you a new way. 

Cancer diagnoses are a part of life. You may not be able to heal your spouse’s diagnosis, make him feel better, or take away his pain, but you can manage the way you respond to your circumstances. 

I can teach you how to identify what causes stress, and how you can support yourself physically and emotionally in the face of hardships.